Dating apps have capitalised on our need to be entertained.
Somewhere in this frenzy we have managed to turn dating into something disposable, in which we ultimately view one another as just another match in a long list of matches.
On this occasion, a guy, let’s call him Andy, was cancelling on me for the fourth time. Sure, I was getting the picture, but he would have saved us both a lot of time if he had just been straight with me.
" I don’t know how many times I’ve stared at my battered i Phone 4 screen with complete bemusement after receiving a text like this.
Nathan Davies, a 23-year-old music producer from east London, serial dater, and advocate of ghosting, says: "As soon as I go on a first date, I’ll know that it’s not really going anywhere, but I just keep texting and meeting up because they’re attractive.
I think I give the impression I like them, which is bad, and then I end it by just ignoring them" These are the same actions that I hear my friends, both guys and girls, complain about.
"They look smart and clean, feel easy to use and user-friendly, when compared with a heavy, slow-moving, inert messy, ‘real stuff’." In the book, Bauman discusses an interview with a 28 year-old man from Bath who states that the advantage of computer dating is that "you can always press delete." Fast-forward to the present day and what Bauman refers to may have escalated to the point of no return.Ansari concludes his book by saying: "If we are honest with ourselves, we realise that, however bizarrely, we actually prefer to be lied to." Dawson agrees with Ansari's viewpoint."Sometimes the truth is just too brutal; it can be like a blunt hammer that you hit someone over the head with.The team defined the term as: "ending a relationship by ignoring all communication from the other person." For his book , the comedian and actor Aziz Ansari asked 150,000 of his audience members how they tell people they aren’t interested.Pretending to be busy came top, shortly followed by the ghosting technique, but only a sliver of the crowd said that honesty was the best policy.
From What App's little blue ticks to Facebook’s time stamp, it is now painfully obvious when you’re being ignored.